Grief and loss aren’t easy to explain but one is clear – it’s depressing. Either it’s a small grief or big one, unfortunately everyone has to go through that at least once. Everyone grieves differently, and there’s certainly no timeline that lets you know how you’re supposed to feel.
However one twitter user Lauren Herschel, a Canadian blogger and dog lover, shared “The Ball And The Box” theory after dealing with grief over her mother’s death. She picked up the analogy from her doctor, and the visual representation of coping with loss and pain went viral on social media.
Lauren drew the box with a ball and red button (pain) inside it. “In the beginning, the ball is huge. You can’t move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. It rattles around on its own in there and hits the button over and over. You can’t control it – it just keeps hurting. Sometimes it seems unrelenting”.
“Over time, the ball gets smaller. It hits the button less and less but when it does, it hurts just as much. It’s better because you can function day to day more easily. But the downside is that the ball randomly hits that button when you least expect it.”
For most people, the ball never really goes away. It might hit less and less and you have more time to recover between hits, unlike when the ball was still giant.
I thought this was the best description of grief I’ve heard in a long time.”